Today I want to argue that first impressions are the least of what our worries should be, despite everyone telling you that first impressions mean everything. Obviously if you wish to get a new job in a firm as a lawyer it would be idiotic to show up dressed as a clown. But with that simple fact out of the way, I’m about to explain, on a spiritual level, why you should simply let first impressions come naturally with imperfect action, and focus more on how you wish to finish something.
First impressions, on a material level, are, of course, important and thought should be put into making them powerful experiences when introducing your potential to new business leads and partners. But when it comes to making friends, if someone judges you because they didn’t like one little thing in your first impression, do they even deserve to be your friend? I won’t spend much more time on first impressions for much longer, because there’s something far more important to talk about–end results.Continue reading “Do First Impressions Really Matter? (The Power of End Results)”
For some people it may be ironic or oxymoronic that I would purposely love others in order to make myself feel better. But, sadly, that’s the way it works. To prove that loving others makes you feel better, imagine how you would feel if your whole life you did nothing but help yourself, never showing love for strangers, only loving your own material gain, and then, just when you least deserved it, just when at an unexpected moment for the first time in your life you felt like you needed love, needed help from someone else, someone gave it to you. When you knew yourself that all you deserved was sorrow, someone went out of their way to help you. How would that make you feel?
I don’t know about you but feeling that unconditional love, for me, would probably be a breaking down moment and I would cry and repent my life’s ways.
What, you might ask, is the difference between unconditional love and regular, spousal love? Let me answer that for you.
An amazing thing happened to me today, something that helped me to appreciate the beautiful sun and nature of this world, and gave me hope for my dream and journey. What happened? I was walking past a house I used to live in a decade ago and while seeing if people I knew still lived in the house, people I haven’t seen in a decade, I noticed an elderly lady gardening in the neighboring front yard and asked her if she remembered the landlady and her friends who used to live in the house I used to live in. She remembered exactly who I was talking about and told me the people I was looking for had moved. Who was the landlady I was looking for? She was like a mother to me. When I last saw her we were fighting furiously, a decade ago. Recently she passed away but I wondered if her friends had kept her house for her.
The lady who had been gardening wondered about her old neighbor as well and I told her about how her neighbor, who had moved, had passed away. This was news I had recently gotten myself, and I wish I could have seen this “neighbor” one last time before she had passed.
The elderly lady told me more about herself and together we began to make a prayer for all the children in the world as we looked around at the bright green summer trees. She had the connections, and knew her deceased neighbor had meant a lot to me. I left talking with her feeling so close to the universe, so hopeful for my life, so grateful for everything I had. This kind stranger had blessed me, told me she would continue to pray for me, and I began to think about how happy she looked gardening by herself. I had just started some serious gardening projects myself in my own backyard, and when I got home today I found myself filled with so much love as I worked away landscaping in the garden. Just a few days ago I had ordered some landscaping Victoria BC services to cut my slantwise backyard into seven terraces held in place by retaining walls, and just moments ago I used my recent inspiration to come up with an entire garden layout design for my empty terraces. The first terrace, the one that reaches by patio, already has a fountain and I’m going to put some benches around it with lots of ferns, bird feeders and a sundial, with a 8-figure cobbled path so I can stroll around in circles meditating as time goes by. That is about a week of work and so I thought once I got the first terrace done I’ll walk around meditating and decide what the next terrace will be, rather than making all my important decisions at once. This for me is a reminder that we never know where our lives will go and that means the next terrace or chapter in your life could be so much better than you ever imagined. As each terrace gets more exciting and meaningful, so will the moments in my life.
Tea in the morning. Seeing the changes in my life as I walk and ponder on all the movement around me. The end of 2017 and 2018 has been an internal experience that has yet to project me onto a great path that I feel is coming, the mysterious path that everyone feels, that gives them satisfaction, whatever it is. For me all I know is that cleaning chores and long walks fills me up and gives me sense that I’m moving in the right direction. Sometimes when I’m cleaning I get so sad but it’s my most creative state and when I clean for a bit and go out for a walk and see how beautiful everything is I often come back to see that my home is beautiful, too. As the summer comes out this time of year I think doing some garden chores in the backyard would be nice as I’ve always wanted to make a certain kind of stew out of vegetables I can grow myself. Thanks for reading its great to be able to share my chores and long walks and whats been on my mind. If I do start some work in the garden I might document it for a nice update.
Some days it’s like a wrestling competition, am I right?
Pin pointing the specifics is a challenge, there are countless situations in this world we live in that create this tug of war between thoughts and feelings. I read this beautiful quote the other day, actually, if memory serves me correctly I believe it was a video floating around on Facebook.
I will quote it like so, “There are two voices in your head, battering away at you throughout any given day, unless you have learned the beauty of meditation and silencing the mind.” Even being familiar with these practices, your thoughts will continue to be there, you just learn to embody an openness and begin to understand things for what they are. “One of the voices is kind of taking control, legitimately removing your awareness from the present moment, that voice is telling you what you should do. If you can wait patiently enough for that second voice, listening for what is more like a whisper rather than a shout, it often says: this is what you could do.”
The last time I was in I chose to write about finding presence, and a technique that I have found creates a natural relaxation. Today I would like to talk a little bit about empathy. Empathy, by definition is the ability to understand and share the feelings of another sentient being. Now what exactly does this entail to you? I know to me, that when someone is bubbly and full of energy, the last thing I need to worry about is fixing their “problems”. As human beings we find ourselves to fix other individuals, at least those who walk the earth embodying empathy. I constantly find myself in situations where if someone is down in the dust, or walking with their eyes gazing at their shoes my instinct is know what’s up and put myself to service. Literally, their biorhythms can entirely change my focus on the task at hand because of how much I care.
Do you ever feel that you are somebodies key to a shift in mindset? You can be, and despite me saying my entire focus changes when I see someone struggling, you can do this with not as much effort! A simple strategy?Remain patient, calm, controlled, and honest in front of these individuals, in front of anybody! It may take some time, but you will be their way back to peace of mind.
You may be thinking, oh jeez I found a writer who starts things off all sappy… Now I am not leading in that direction any further! Me stating that fact initially creates tolerance in your being in case you come across something on my website that you resent, dislike, or want to change. Those extra seconds I’ll have with you give me the opportunity to create something that you may actually love, enjoy, or want to read more about.