Today I want to argue that first impressions are the least of what our worries should be, despite everyone telling you that first impressions mean everything. Obviously if you wish to get a new job in a firm as a lawyer it would be idiotic to show up dressed as a clown. But with that simple fact out of the way, I’m about to explain, on a spiritual level, why you should simply let first impressions come naturally with imperfect action, and focus more on how you wish to finish something.
First impressions, on a material level, are, of course, important and thought should be put into making them powerful experiences when introducing your potential to new business leads and partners. But when it comes to making friends, if someone judges you because they didn’t like one little thing in your first impression, do they even deserve to be your friend? I won’t spend much more time on first impressions for much longer, because there’s something far more important to talk about–end results.
Have you ever watched one of those motivational videos on YouTube where some bigwig successful person preaches about “visualizing what you want”? Believe it or not, that’s extremely good advice, and it’s scientifically proven to help your results–no different than what psychologists call a “self-fulfilling prophecy.” When meditating on what you expect to have in the future, brain cells are growing, holding that information, preparing your body to experience them. This is important to mention for this discussion because next I’ll be talking about what most successful celebrities do to maintain their fame and credibility.
Have you ever wondered why the most famous actors “disappear” for a while before making another appearance? It’s a piece of worldly wisdom to leave your luck before it leaves you! That’s exactly why some actors who overstay their welcome in the mainstream’s eye become suddenly less popular, and people even begin to mock them, and–boom!–just like that their whole reputation is ruined and they’ll no longer live to be a legendary icon. Wrap your ahead around this concept of leaving your luck early because it correlates with my argument–first impressions aren’t as important as many people claim them to be. If your goal is to leave a long-term legacy behind, it’s much more important to finish off well than it is to start off well. In other words, learn to quit while you’re ahead.
Almost every major successful person will tell you that starting off was extremely difficult. To do something really worthwhile you’re bound to fail more than once in the beginning. For an actor, making a first impression in the industry means nothing. Did you know Will Smith used to be a rapper before he got into acting. Not many people do, because they don’t give a crap about his first impressions. Sure, maybe some snoot in Hollywood cared back in the day but that doesn’t mean anything anymore. Now, today, to finish off strong as a legendary icon, Will Smith will finish off well.
The reason I wanted to share this today is because many people I know get so stressed out about their failures in pursuing a career in the entertainment industry. They think everyone is watching, and now that they messed up a few times their chance at being someone great is ruined. Pfff–that’s BS, baby! Really believe that’s BS, because, in reality, it’s nothing more than an excuse to give up and quit. Nothing worth doing is easy, and it’s time to stop putting so much importance on getting a big applause at the beginning. The most unlucky people in this world get an applause at the beginning, and no one will care about them when they’re gone. To truly make an impact in this world through art, to make a long-lasting legacy people will talk about for hundreds of years, it’s almost a rule to make a bad first impression by failing. And that’s the truth.
By visualizing how you’re going to finish something well, and not worrying about how your going to start something, you’ll be following the advice of some of the world’s most successful people. Visualize future end results. It’s far more important than caring about what people think of you today.